Loss: The conduit to your best win. And mind you, every failure comes with a hilarious aftertaste.
Loss. The ultimate party crasher. It shows up uninvited, overstays its welcome, and leaves you wondering if you’ll ever find the joy again. But, history proves that loss is often the secret sauce to winning big. So, let’s flip the narrative, laugh at our misfortunes, and see how some of the greatest losses in history paved the way for epic wins.
When we’re face-down in the dirt of defeat, the last thing anyone wants to hear is “this is actually great news!” Yet history’s highlight reel suggests that our most spectacular face-plants often serve as springboards to our greatest victories. Perhaps we should start sending “congratulations” cards for major setbacks instead of sympathy notes. And actually host a ” loss party ‘ because you are pre-empting the celebration of your upcoming epic win.
Getting fired can be a magnificent blessing. Ask J K Rowling. Before she created the wizarding empire that would make her richer than the Queen of England, she was a broke, divorced, single mom on welfare who had just been fired. She describes herself then as “the biggest failure I knew.” Turns out, hitting rock bottom gave her the freedom to focus on the only project that mattered to her – a little story about a boy wizard. So, the next time your boss calls you into his room with that inescapable grim, end of the world expression, go arms swinging with a bottle of champagne. You might be on the verge of creating a billion-dollar franchise. At minimum, you’ll create an awkward memory that will haunt both of you forever.
We have heard of cheque bounce. But, here is history’s biggest Bankruptcy Bounce. Walt Disney was forced to declare bankruptcy after his first animation company failed. Henry Ford‘s first two automobile companies went bust. Both men later created empires that changed the world. Perhaps we should rebrand bankruptcy as “financial exfoliation” – just scrubbing away the dead cells of bad decisions to reveal the glowing entrepreneurial skin beneath. “I’m not broke; I’m pre-wealthy!”
The rejection injection. Stephen King‘s first novel “Carrie” was rejected 30 times. He was so discouraged that he threw the manuscript in the trash. His wife fished it out, encouraged him to resubmit it, and the rest is horror history. Today he has sold over 350 million books. King keeps his rejection letters impaled on a spike in his bedroom. Consider creating your own “Wall of No” – a monument to all the people who thought you weren’t good enough. Nothing says “I’ve made it” quite like decorating your home with artifacts of your past humiliations.
The global collapse as a catalyst. Nintendo started as a playing card company in 1889. When that business began to fail, they pivoted to… instant rice. And taxi services. And love hotels. Eventually, they found their way to video games, but only after a series of spectacular flops. Imagine the Nintendo board meetings. “Playing cards are dying… how about we sell rice? No? Hotel rooms for romantic encounters? Driving people around town?” Sometimes finding your purpose looks like a drunk person trying to unlock their front door with every key on the ring.
Public humiliation as the springboard. Conan O’ Brien lost “The Tonight Show” in a very public and messy network battle. Instead of disappearing, he embarked on a comedy tour called “The Legally Prohibited from Being Funny on Television Tour,” turned his failure into content, and eventually reinvented his career. There’s something liberating about having your worst professional moments broadcast to millions. After that, bombing a presentation to 12 people feels like a private whisper. “You’re worried about tripping on the stairs? I lost a job so publicly they made HBO documentaries about it!”
The accidental re-direction. There is a vast tribe of people who love playing the game called power dynamics. Oprah Winfrey was also at the receiving end of this full time occupation. Oprah was demoted from her job as news anchor because she “wasn’t fit for television.” She was reassigned to a daytime talk show slot as a consolation… which became the launching pad for her media empire. Next time someone says you’re not right for something, remember they might be accidentally redirecting you to your destiny. “Thank you for noticing I’m terrible at this! Your rejection is the GPS rerouting me to greatness.”
You think you’re being rejected. You’re actually being rerouted. You think you’re losing something. You’re actually making space for something better.
Let’s take a moment to laugh at some of the things we mourn: That one sock that mysteriously disappears in the wash. Seriously, where does it go? Is there a secret sock dimension? Mourning it won’t bring it back, but buying funky mismatched socks might just make you a fashion icon. How about that for a socker punch?
When you lose something, it’s like life hits you with a cosmic Marie Kondo moment: “Does this spark joy?” If not, thank it for its service and let it go. Losing your hair might feel like a tragedy, but bald is beautiful (just ask Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson). Plus, think of all the money you’ll save on shampoo.
Have you heard of a medical misfire? One that created a world humbling to die for product? Dr. Spencer Silver at 3M was attempting to develop a super-strong adhesive. Instead, he accidentally created an unusually weak one. This “failure” eventually became the Post-it Note, one of the most successful office products ever made. Sometimes your greatest contribution to humanity will be the exact opposite of what you were trying to achieve. This is why I’ve stopped having goals altogether ( not just because I sucked at football!).
See what can emerge from the greatest olympic stumble– Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. “I have failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed,” he later said. Imagine if social media existed when teenage Jordan got cut. The hashtags! #BasketballFailure, #CutFromTheTeam, #FutureMcDonaldsEmployee. Sometimes the universe’s greatest prank is making you look like a loser right before making you a legend.
So,the next time you experience a crushing defeat, remember you’re in excellent company. History’s highlight reel is filled with people who looked like complete disasters right before they changed the world. So go ahead and fail spectacularly – you might be just one catastrophe away from your greatest triumph.
And if all else fails, at least you’ll have an excellent story to tell at parties. Nothing livens up small talk like a well-crafted tale of magnificent disaster.