Apparently, there is ” Wisdom of the Crowds “..” A Collective Bias “.
Though not sure with wisdom and bias– can the twain meet?
Since decades, marketers and politicians have been working to exaggerate cultural distress, a hack on our emotions.
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Apparently, there is ” Wisdom of the Crowds “..” A Collective Bias “.
Though not sure with wisdom and bias– can the twain meet?
Since decades, marketers and politicians have been working to exaggerate cultural distress, a hack on our emotions.
Ideally, conventional phonetics would have called this out as Optimism V Pessimism. That being said, ideal is only wishful thinking. Better get used to shock and awe.
A posture. A stance. A position. About what to expect.
A response(or reaction) to external events or triggers.
But if we can be thoughtful about optimism as a tactic, the focus and energy it brings can solve problems that others might simply walk away from. Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.
Our pessimism might not be an accurate diagnosis of the past. Baggage carried forward. It might simply be a way we’re using to produce a future we’re not happy with.
“What people forget is a journey to nowhere starts with a single step, too.”
BEGINS
I was never even mediocre at either math or arithmetic. Hence, if this fails to add up, I am completely at home with it.
Making a Cape sorry..Case of Good Hope!
We all know 2020 has been quite the decade (and we all have the stress wrinkles to prove it), so here’s hoping that this blog on hope is a boost.
Wisdom of the crowds.
Collective bias.
Herd mentality.
Birds of the same feather flocking together.
All of the above exemplifies the force and velocity of a human collective.
Why not add hope to the mix? The power of collective hope.
Unabashed capitalism has never been a great ally of either faith or hope. But our hopes, not our hurts, shape our future.
If we can combine accepting finite disappointment without losing infinite hope, we would all be in clover.
Writer and essayist Lu Xun has this to share on the power of collective hope:
” Hope is like a road in the country side..where there was never a road, but when many people walk on it, the road comes into existence “.
It’s not too late. The space of possibilities is endless. The most interesting terrain remains unexplored. Hope is like the sun. Never fails to rise.
Hope is a powerful four letter word. And collective hope is a fource to reckon with.
ENDS
Please pardon me if the caption of this blog post sounds comfortingly familiar to the Bee Gees classic single ” How Deep Is Your Love “. Inspired? Yes, absolutely.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
It shouldn’t be such a difficult thing to do, but, yet it is.
How to love yourself.
One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others.
There will be times when you will be feeling lousy about your state of mind, your over-fifty body, your hair, you see yourself as too fat, too this or too that..it’s a rabbit hole that we all go into.
Yet you fantasise about finding someone who would give you the gift of being loved as you are. Contrarian, isn’t it?
It is silly, isn’t it, that you would dream of someone else offering to you the same acceptance and affirmation that you are voluntarily withholding from yourself.
The word ‘ love ‘ is most often defined as a noun. But, it is worth altering the trajectory. We would all love better if the word love is used as a verb, rather than a noun.
The ask here is: could we proactively offer a new ethic for a society bereft with lovelessness– not the lack of romance, but the lack of care, compassion, unity ?
People are divided by our society’s failure to provide a model for learning to love.
Should we be razing the cultural paradigm for a new path to love that is sacred, redemptive, and healing for individuals and society?
Definitely so. Count me in!
As Katrina Mayer puts it, ” Loving yourself isn’t vanity, it is sanity “.
ENDS
It is said that you may be whatever you resolve to be. Nothing relieves and ventilates the mind like a resolution.
As we say adios to another year and get ready to welcome another, let us take a look at some potential resolutions that we will bravely (or tamely) bring to fore.
“I want to laugh more, the laughter that makes you cry and makes your sides ache.” Now that is worth a standing ovation.
“My intention for 2023 is to replace mean thoughts with kind and patient ones.” Keep the applause going.
I stay resolved to take “everything (especially politics) and everyone less seriously and try to be the best person I can.”
How about some idiosyncratic resolutions? Like “I intend to eliminate very and really from my vocabulary”. That is really a very good idea. Oops. Sorry.
I heard about a resolution from a friend which was to have “someone repair the wristwatch his dad bought him for his high-school graduation in 1985, so he can wear it again.” This is truly timeless.
Some of us are charging right at 2023 with angry-rhino determination. Keep the fire in the belly burning.
” Your real competition is your distraction “– Anonymous
If you are reading this, amidst your deep immersive work, you shouldn’t be. This would seem weird coming from the guy who sent you this in the first place.
The achilles heel of our times: Staying focused and distracted by a lot of ideas.
We are living through a crisis of distraction. Plans get sidetracked, friends are ignored, work never seems to get done. Why does it feel like we’re distracting our lives away?
Donuts taste great when we are eating them. But we feel like shit some time after. We get a bit of short-term pleasure and long-term pain.
The two primary motivators of changing our behavior are:
Avoiding pain &
Experiencing pleasure
All the attention management strategies in the world will not work unless we feel the pain and the opportunity cost of distractions.
If anything, the world is becoming a more distracting place. Technology is becoming more pervasive and persuasive.
We all suffer from the shiny object syndrome. The thrill of the chase. And the after glow.
Our biggest obstacle is fighting our addiction with social media and the mobile phone.
Wasting time online, ironically consuming content about how to be a more prolific, successful creator.
Digital distractions create somewhat of a paradox. We get to avoid the pain of focusing on something that matters to us. And the dopamine hits we get from checking our emails or scrolling through our Instagram | Facebook feeds. That gives us a lot of pleasure.
But that little boost of pleasure becomes painful when we realise that we’ve wasted time on something that prevents us from accomplishing our real goals.
It’s hard to change anything until our motivation is strong enough. Before we can deal with our addictions to distraction, it is important to uncover our motivations.
A donut called distraction.
ENDS
Please forgive the almost oxymoronic nature of the blog’s caption. We all think that no power leads to darkness, isn’t it?
The world owes a lot to Benjamin Franklin, the scientist who invented electricity. It’s human to want light and warmth. God’s first recorded words, according to the Hebrew Bible, were: “Let there be light.”
The night has a dark side; literally and metaphorically: ghosts, scary monsters, robbers, the unknown. Electricity’s triumph over the night keeps us safer as well as busier.
But whatever extends the day loses us the dark. Our always on, 24-7 culture has phased out the night, so much so that we treat the night like failed daylight.
Night and dark are good for us. As the nights lengthen, it’s time to reopen the dreaming space. Have you ever spent an evening without electric light? You would have noticed that when the lights are on, we are all in conformity mode. Saluting the default template, playing it safe, keeping up with the Joneses, effectively talking about our outer lives. Living the expected.
It’s different when we are sitting around a fire or candlelight which is when we begin to articulate our feelings. Our inner lives. We speak subjectively, argue less, there are longer pauses. Noticed? Or you could not see it in the dark?
To sit in isolation in darkness is curiously creative. We have our brainwaves , best ideas and Eureka moments in the dead of the night and the moment the light comes on we are thinking projects, deadlines, groceries, bills…
The famous “sleep on it” when we have a dilemma we can’t solve is an indication of how important dream time | darkness is to human wellbeing.
Food, fire, walks, talks, dreams, cold, sleep, love, slowness, time, quiet, books, seasons – all these things, which are not really things, but moments of life – take on a different quality at night-time. Creativity, like human life itself — begins in darkness.
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.”
— Mary Oliver
Switch off to Switch on!
ENDS
It is said that attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.
The poet J.D. McCatchy captured this essential fact beautifully in his observation that “love is the quality of attention we pay to things.”.
It’s a no brainer. Before we can create anything worthy of other people’s attention, we have to learn to manage ours.
Our world is the outcome of what we pay attention to. Period. Attention is the currency of achievement.
Being present is the best present we can give ourselves. And to others. There is a curious power in being present. When we are present, we see the other person more clearly. We communicate better. We make lasting connections.
Unfortunately, in our always on, go-go-go world, being with someone who is fully present and therefore offering attention is rare.
Good work and great art comes from deep focus and deep work. Our ability to be prolific, create art that resonates, that strikes a chord , tug at the heartstrings and hit people in the face with a crowbar depends on our ability to focus.
Consider for a moment the kind of mental world we can construct when we dedicate significant time and attention to deep endeavors.
“Attention, taken to its highest degree, is the same thing as prayer,” Simone Weil observed as she considered the relationship between attention and grace at the peak of her short life. “Attention without feeling,” Mary Oliver wrote a generation later in her beautiful elegy for her soul mate, “is only a report.”
It’s hard to carve out time and space for work or art that matters if we’re always distracted by things don’t.
So, how much art have you made today?
” I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we’re all teachers – if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door “. Marla Gibbs
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In our lives, many of us favor the comfort of conviction over the discomfort of truth.
We listen and lean towards opinions that make us feel good rather than ideas that will make us think hard.
We regard disagreement as a threat to our egos, rather than an opportunity to learn.
We, by design, surround ourselves with people who echo and endorse our thinking and beliefs, rather than gravitating toward those who challenge and question our thought process.
The result is that our beliefs get brittle long before our bones do.
Intelligence is no cure; in fact it can even be a curse( we have heard of ” Curse of Knowledge “, haven’t we? ).
There’s strong evidence that being good at thinking can make us sub optimal and worse at rethinking. The brighter we are, the more blinded and limited we become to our own thinking. We short change ourselves. Constantly.
We don’t have to believe everything we think and internalize everything we feel.
Give yourselves an invitation or permission to let go of views that are no longer serving you well. In lieu of that, prize mental flexibility, humility, and unabashed curiosity over foolish consistency.
There’s immense power in intentionally creating and opening the doors that accommodate you—instead of shrinking yourself in order to squeeze through whatever door happens to be there.
If knowledge indeed is power, then knowing what we don’t know is wisdom.
Once you’ve decided what you want from life, go off-menu. Ask for it. Create it.
Because the best things in life aren’t on the menu.
ENDS