The quintessential temptation is to be all things to all people. Avoid being the contrarian or being adversarial and just find refuge in going with the flow. Find the sweet spot of being generous and revel in it.
That said, what are the guard rails in life that we are putting up? When to be what? Kind and generous or inward and for oneself ? There is no one approach which is either or. Both function in tandem. Sometimes the calling is to be kind and generous and you are showing up and shipping out your work or art or contribution, while at other times you are refilling your own cup so that you have the gas to continue. It’s a happy collision, a healthy mix of being caring and giving and being selfish. Sometimes you are pouring for others while at other times you are filling your own cup.
Sometimes you just need to be selfish and take care of you. If they care for you, they will understand.
“Selfishness is neither good nor bad – it depends on the way we are selfish as to whether it nourishes or injures.”- Hugh Prather
To be successful you have to be selfish, or else you never achieve. And once you get to your highest level, then you have to be unselfish. Stay reachable. Stay in touch. Don’t isolate- Michael Jordan
PS:UnMarketing happens when you stop marketing and start engaging. When you focus on building trust and connection, so when your market needs your product or service, you are the logical choice. Watch the video here.. In this age of UNMarketing, do you have an UNagency?