Month: December 2024

 

Probably the blog caption runs counter to the perceived wisdom that is floating around a k a that growth and learning are Conjoined twins. And we are besieged by a culture that offers pride of place to addition– adding things to life which effectively means the default remains-once onboarded, it becomes identity, which you are not expected to edit, expand or update. There is nothing inherently wrong with adding. But if it becomes a default path to improvement, that may be failing to consider a whole class of other opportunities​.

 

The best films are exceptional NOT because of what we see but because of what we don’t see. More reading for those who might see relevance in this can be found at https://www.sureshdinakaran.com/blog/2024/08/20/wanted-editor-in-chief-for-life-3/

 

It is said that half of wisdom is learning what to unlearn.

 

“We are what we are because we have been what we have been.” “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” “To become what one is, one must not have the faintest idea what one is.” “Self-knowledge is not knowledge but a story one tells about oneself.” These curated quotes from the likes of Sigmund Freud, Lao-Tzu, Friedrich Nietzsche & Simone De Beauvoir, in that order, beautifully summarises the strong co relation between deficiency and identity.

The deficiency=identity syndrome!

” I can never learn Spanish, I don’t have an ear for languages “.. ” Risk taking and number crunching is not my forte, I can never be an entrepreneur “. Because such thinking highlighting deficiencies is highly robust and powerfully self-reinforcing, they begin to become our identity. 

 

And because the belief is so deep rooted, you will do everything in your power to come in your own way and not learn and fail at learning the new language or embark on the journey of being a business person. Such self-sabotage acts as a virtual loop going back to strengthen the original belief. Time to realise that ‘ the obstacle is the way ‘.

 

The caveat here is that unlearning is not a walk in the park. Having a guide or a coach as a partner in rhyme who will help you wear a new lens and hoover out what has rigidly domiciled in the recesses of your mind will be handy.

 

Life cannot subsist in society but by reciprocal concessions.

 

Clint Eastwood: “What you put into life is what you get out of it”.

 

Maya Angelou: “You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have” .

 

The body achieves what the mind believes. It’s the will, not the skill. So, keep going! No matter how hard things may get, it’s important to keep going – a skill takes time to achieve and nurture, the most important thing is to be consistent and the results will come.

 

Because personal growth is a long-term effort, you’re bound to encounter obstacles along the way. Whether you’re pursuing a new dream, working hard toward ongoing goals or making a plan to transform your life in some way, you’re bound to encounter challenges along the way. But those challenges could be a gateway to growth and new opportunities. As Ryan Holiday mentioned with a book by the name ” The Obstacle is the Way “, the path to your next and best is somewhere in those obstacles.

 

The law of attraction and manifestation is a two way street.

 

Want to have committed people around you? You stick to your commitment!

Expect reliability from others first by being reliable.

Earn trust first and then expect others to become trustworthy.

Attitude precedes outcomes. The desire for six-pack abs is far weaker than an attitude for training.

Be ready to die empty! There is always a tomorrow but all our tomorrows are finite. We will run out of them. Give all that it takes to do the things that brightens your day. Today. And day after day. The returns will surprise you. And pleasantly at that.

 

Abundance is a dance with reciprocity – what we can give, what we can share, and what we receive in the process- Terry Tempest Williams