Our load bearing capacity is indeed Machiavellian. Especially when it comes to resentment, anger, envy, jealousy, bitterness. All these come with an adhesive that seems to have more stickiness than is needed. We can choose to lean against it and close the door on new thinking, new possibilities, new optimism and new connections.
One thing you have to doff your hat off to for bitterness and resentment is the consistency that it brings along. It tails you like a shadow, is never-ending, almost impregnable and it will show tenacity and persistence as long as long you want it to. It is the same old, same old, with nothing novel to offer. Impasse and status quo are its pillars.
Bitter can never be better. It is a Con job! Better implies that what we have right now is imperfect. Better requires change, and change is scary. Better might be in the eye of the beholder. Better is an assertion, one that requires not just the confidence to say it, but the optimism to believe that it’s possible.