There’s More to ‘More’ Than Meets The I !

 

In a world where most of us are infatuated with the idea of ‘ more ‘, let’s take a look at what is less spoken about more.

 

“No ego can last for long without the need for more. Therefore, wanting keeps the ego alive much more than having. The ego wants to want more than it wants to have. And so the shallow satisfaction of having is always replaced by more wanting.”

 

This is not a treatise in no more. Or know more. We certainly don’t need more of that stuff.

 

We, as people, ​systematically overlook subtractive changes, instead following ​our​ instincts to add. There is nothing inherently wrong with adding. In the culture of the day, people like us, do things like this. But if it becomes a default path to improvement, that may be failing to consider a whole class of other opportunities​. So, more is NOT equal to better, more often than not.

 

How about practicing some essentialism? The disciplined practice of less but better. Separating the vital few from the trivial many. Mind you, this is no easy task. To distill and rein in our incorrigibly elastic task list. How will we answer our ego? Or camouflage our insecurities? We find comfort in “keeping our options open”. But having too many options leaves us without direction. Having a few focused options gives our life a clear direction and makes decision-making easier. So, less, NOT more, is the call of the hour.

 

To quote Holly Black from The Cruel Prince, “Desire is an odd thing. As soon as it’s sated, it transmutes. If we receive golden thread, we desire the golden needle.

 

S​o what is the take away? ​Yes, you guessed it, take away, to make way !
BEGINS

Miss..alien..us !

 

Miss..alien..us !

 

Grammar and spelling have taken a backseat in the above caption. Was it by design? Most certainly. Miscellaneous is the word I am referring to. That said, the culture we operate in buckets us in a manner that is alien, which means we miss the bus, more often than not.

 

You enter a physical book store or on Amazon, miscellaneous is always the largest category. With the smallest following. The internet and its reach has created the rather wondrous ‘ long tail effect ‘ which means there is an audience for almost anything and everything however small it might be.

 

The same web has made us lazy ( if there was a potential to be more so) – that irrespective of the order (or chaos), we will find it. That was not the way we were. Spoons went into a certain slot, so did shoes and socks, books and magazines, brooms and mops…everything had a clear slot and it was well sorted. Finding was a seamless default mode.

 

Taxonomy (or classification of things) help us get to where we want to faster and better. Being in ‘ search ‘ mode always takes away time, calls for more effort( and thereby brings in more of the accompanying inertia), derails momentum and flow and make us eschew the useful serendipity that comes with finding things where they need to be, where we expect them to be.

 

If you find yourself in ‘ find mode ‘ most of the time, it’s time to find a way out. The big sort will help. Unless, you are happy, re-inventing the wheel, all the time. In the process, ‘ missing the wood for the trees‘.

 

ENDS

 

 

 

 

Oh..to be a ‘ misfit ‘, may not be in the fitness of things!

 

This probably might not be for those who miss fitting in. I am sorry if it is not for you. Perhaps I don’t fit in. That said, I am happy to be a misfit !

 

The famous rapper and singer Drake said, “I was born to make mistakes, not to fake perfection “.

 

If vulnerability is your strength, you might be a misfit..

 

If standing naked in your own truth is your go-to attire, you might be a misfit..

 

If your answers are questions, you might be a misfit..

 

If you are leading as a follower, you might be a misfit..

 

If you sit comfortably while standing inside your own failure, you might be a misfit..

 

If you don’t fall prey to the  ‘ wisdom of the crowds ‘, you might be a misfit..

 

If you are contrarian in your thinking, you might be a misfit..

 

If you don’t run the wanting to be an ‘ also ran race ‘, you might be a misfit..

 

If you are open about your ‘ imposter syndrome ‘, you might be a misfit..

 

If, as a personality, you don’t want to B Type A, you might be a misfit..

 

If you see shame in being the same, you might be a misfit..

 

If ‘ out of place ‘ is the place you seek, you might be a misfit..

 

If you don’t want to be all things to all people, you might be a misfit..

 

 

It must have come as a relief that a lot of us misfits so have so many places to go to, situations to be in and standards to be measured by. Perhaps because, institutionalized rejection of difference is an absolute necessity in a profit economy which needs we outsiders as surplus people.

 

As Sarah Addison Allen put it out it so beautifully “ Misfits need a place to get away, too. All that trying to fit in is exhausting.

 

ENDS